Kindly Caring For Yourself After The Dance
You have tasted what is real and possible in your life. Whether this is your first dance or your tenth, it may be easy or challenging right now. For some it can be a bumpy process as old habits — some of which keep us disconnected — reassert themselves in the familiar environment of our everyday lives. For others, they could be on cloud nine.
Here are some time-tested suggestions to help you ground and digest your experience after the dance:
You may experience great clarity (or mental fog to rival San Francisco) after the dance; let the energy of the dance integrate for a week or two before making any big decisions.
You may experience unusual mood swings or big emotions. Make space for them to settle. Be kind and gentle with yourself and others.
If you are driving and start to feel out-of-body, PULL OVER. Get grounded and take care of yourself. A few ways to do this are — drink water; turn your attention to slow and even breathing; get outside the car and stretch, or sit on the ground; get in present time; put your back to a tree if you can.
Sit with your vision arrow daily or when you can, especially when staying connected is a challenge. Shift the challenges into gratitude!
Let your sacred items remind you of your experience at the dance. If you feel called and don’t already have one, create an altar for yourself. Learn how to smudge yourself off.
YOU are still in the dance! Our lovely and deep time together was just the beginning. Our dance was 3 days; your dance is the next 362 days. How will you walk your prayers and visions?
First-time dancers, contact your buddy or intention guide for a check in.
Say thank you. Did an elder or dancer help or inspire you in some way? Tell them, they will be ever so grateful.
Video: Clyde Hall & Rosette Royale — After The Dance
Seek out one of our many pipe holders in our communities. They would be honored to sit and pray on your behalf.
- Reach out to other dancers. There is a large dancer community on Facebook, and a wonderful NCPC Facebook page.
The time to prepare for your return home is before the dance. Former dancer Trebbe Johnson has written a wonderful Parabola Magazine article that underscores the importance of the journey home after one of our Dances. In the article Trebbe draws upon mythic tales from many cultures, and offers her “equipment list” to assist in the process. READ >>
We have eight dances around the country. Check out the Dance Calendar
Reach out to other dancers in loving kindness. As Clyde has told us, if you bump into a dancer in your travels, take a moment to greet them and say hello. We are all family around the Tree.